How to Tell Family and Friends You’re Eloping
Easy, you don’t.
I’m just kidding! I write this with the utmost sincerity because when it came to my elopement, I didn’t tell anyone…and I still feel a tad bit guilty about it.
If you’re anything like I was, you might be considering keeping it a secret because there are some people in your life who just won’t understand. They’re going to text/call you every day to complain about your decision to elope in hopes you change your mind. Thus, causing you more stress than you really need.
And to be 100% honest with you, you don’t need to tell anyone who is going to make it that much harder for you.
However, you should tell the ones who are going to be so excited for you. The ones who are going to be waiting impatiently for you to return because they can’t wait to hear all about your day! You should definitely tell the ones who are going to look through your photos and cry happy tears with you. Those are the ones you want to tell, especially if you’re opting for an elopement day with just you two.
So, how do you let them know and better yet, how do you include them still?
Sharing the News
Ease them into the idea that you’re getting married
First thing first, you want to ease them into finding out that you’re even engaged. Share photos of your engagement ring, take engagement photos and share them on social media or via text, or simply just let them know you’re engaged.
If and when you start getting questions about your wedding plans, it’s ok to let them know you’re unsure still or that you’re enjoying your engagement first.
tell them face to face
When you feel that it’s the right time (there is no right or wrong time), plan on telling your family and friends face to face. This is so that no one feels like they weren’t important enough for you to tell them in-person.
Also, not only does this make explaining and answering questions easier, but it can help show how genuine and excited you are about your elopement. Seeing how happy you are with this decision, will make it easier for them to accept that this is what you want.
I would suggest letting them know while enjoying a fun activity together. Whether it’s a dinner date, during game night or while taking a walk, letting them know while they’re enjoying an activity can sometimes help with them feeling a little more comfort in the entire situation.
give your reasons
Most importantly, don’t forget to explain your reasoning behind your decision to elope.
Most people don’t understand what eloping truly means; many think it’s “running away to get married to avoid everyone else” and that’s obviously not the case here. You are simply choosing to celebrate with just the two of you.
Here are a few things you can explain to them:
We want to avoid our wedding feeling like a production.
We want our wedding day to feel intimate and intentional.
We want to spend as much time together as possible on our wedding day.
We’re looking for something that won’t be too stressful.
We want to spend money on something a little more focused on us rather than guests.
Involve them in your planning and on your elopement day
Nothing will make them feel more important to you than asking them to be a part of your elopement planning.
Here are some great ways to involve loved ones:
Ask them if they have any vendor recommendations.
Have them be a part of your journey to finding wedding attire.
Ask if they have any favorite vacation spots that match what you’re looking for.
Ask if they could write letters for the two of you to read on your elopement day.
Share you wedding photos with them as soon as you receive them.
Remember why you’re eloping.
Most importantly, don’t forget this day is for you two. It’s incredibly sweet and so thoughtful that you’re empathizing with your family and friends, but remember the day is for you.
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